How to help you older child to accept a new sibling
62Toddlers and preschoolers between the ages of 2 and 4 generally have a hard time adjusting to a new baby. At this age, a child is still very attached to his parents, and may feel threatened by the idea of a new family member. Here are some tried-and-tested tips parents can adopt to help older children welcome the new baby as a wonderful addition to the family, and to make sure they feel secure in their parents' love.
- Set Aside Special Time
No matter how busy you are with the new baby, reserve some special time every day just for you and your older child.Read, draw, play games, listen and sing to music, or simply spend moments talking together. Listen when your child talks about his day, his thoughts, or his emotions.
- Time The Changes
Close to the arrival of baby, try to not make too many major changes in your older children's routines.If you plan to move your child out of a crib and into a bed or another room, do it well before baby is born. Otherwise, put off the 'alterations' until after the infant is settled in at home. Avoid introducing your child to playgroup or preschool sessions right around the time when baby arrives, as he may think that he is being 'sent away'.
- Delay New Tasks
Do not attempt to teach your child new skills, such as using the potty, or switching from bottle to cup, close to the arrival of the new infant. Otherwise, your child may feel overwhelmed by trying to learn new skills on top of coping with the changes brought on by baby's arrival.
- Share The Care
Make your older child feel that he has a role to play in caring for the infant. Allow him to help with simple tasks such powdering baby or getting a bib during feeding times. Encourage him to touch and play with his new sibling, and praise him when he is displays gentle and affectionate behaviour toward the infant.
- Expect Regression
Be patient if your child regresses in many of his behaviours. It's quite common for older siblings, especially toddlers, to start exhibiting 'babyish' traits such as not wanting to use the potty, using baby talk, or insisting on having a bottle. Instead of telling him to 'act your age', give him chances to be a 'big brother', and praise him when he acts 'grown-up'.
- Allow Your Child His Space
Give your older child his own space, and allow him to keep his special and personal possessions there. Do not insist that he share his things with his sibling . Give him time to decide when he is ready to share.
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